The question: I’m just curious if having a large amount of sex actually alters the size/shape of the vagina. Also, if a woman sleeps with a man with a very large penis many times, will her vagina change shape permanently? Or will it snap back to its original form eventually?
The expert: Lauren Streicher, M.D., associate professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern University’s Feinberg School of Medicine and author of Love Sex Again .
The answer: Relax! The female body is designed to adjust to be elastic and expand to accommodate everything from a large penis to childbirth, says Streicher. “Even the largest penis in the world won’t compare to the size of the baby, so it won’t affect the size of the vagina.”
See, the vagina actually goes through physical changes when you’re aroused. Increased blood flow to the area helps to lubricate the bumpy walls of the vagina, called rugae. Once the rugae relaxes, it unfolds, essentially giving your body more space to accommodate a penis, no matter the size. Sometimes the body’s natural lubrication isn’t enough, especially with a larger penis. In those cases, Streicher recommends adding a lubricant that’s non- water-based. “It helps makes the vagina extra slippery, making sex more comfortable—and more fun.”
If you’re feeling not-quite-as-tight-as-usual right after sex, that’s normal; your vagina just expanded to accommodate your guy… for a good amount of time. But again, this will bounce back to normal pretty quickly—anywhere from a few minutes to a couple hours, says Streicher.
Usually if there’s an issue with things not feeling tight, it’s not the vagina—it’s actually the muscles around it known as the pelvic floor, says Streicher. Kegels may help, but most women don’t do them correctly or consistently. So Streicher recommends talking to your gyno or a pelvic floor specialist who can recommend specialized exercises or devices to help stimulate and strengthen the muscles down there.
Bottom line? A large member won’t change the shape of your vagina permanently. Just make sure you’re using plenty of lube—and foreplay—to ensure a comfortable and pleasurable fit.
1. Clean up
Cleanliness is even more of a issue with analingus than with traditional oral sex . Taking a sexy bath or shower together is a relaxing form of foreplay and will allow your partner to get squeaky clean. You or your partner should soap their butt and asshole, inserting a finger into the rectum, and rinse thoroughly with warm water. An enema usually isn’t necessary if you wash well.
2. Ease in
Let you partner relax and get comfortable with you exploring their posterior before you bury your tongue in their ass. Massage their back and buttocks, kiss and caress their thighs and ass cheeks. Spread their cheeks and blow warm breaths over their hole. Lick, suck, and nibble their butt, perineum (the area of skin between the asshole and genitals), and the skin around their pucker. Get everything warm, wet, and lubricated with saliva.
Assholes usually contract when stimulated, and then expand. Lick gently or tap the tip of your tongue against their asshole, and wait for a response. After a bit of gentle probing, the sphincter muscles should start to relax and welcome deeper exploration.
3. Work your tongue
The anal region is full of sensitive nerve endings just begging for your tongue’s caress. Keep your mouth moist and supple as you work their hole over. Keep your tongue loose and paint wide circle around their pucker. Make it tight, long and pointed to probe and penetrate. Work it in and out, around and around, till your partner begs for more.
4. Use your hands
In some ass-eating positions, your hands may be full keeping your partner’s butt cheeks spread to allow you better access to their hole. But it’s worthwhile to convince them to either sit on your face or reach back and clamp their ass open wide themselves. That way you can put your own paws to work massaging your partner’s clit, or stroking off his cock, or tweaking his or her nipples.
5. Pig out
Once you’ve got your face in your partner’s butt, don’t hold back. Worship your partner’s ass. Get lost in it, make love to it. Eating out someone’s ass is one of the most intimate of all sexual acts. If both partners approach it with openness and enthusiasm, they will be rewarded with unparalleled enjoyment, whether eating ass is a main course, a spicy side dish, or appetizer for anal sex.
THE cow must have been sexually abused, people say. She gave birth to a calf with a strange head, and male and female sex organs.
NOW THE GOVERNMENT WANTS TO TEST THE CALF TO SEE IF IT’S HALF HUMAN!
The Mlangeni homestead is being flooded by curious residents who want to see the creature born to a cow named Nyamazane. Sebenzile Mlangeni (60), from Emazizini Village, outside Bergville in north-western KZN, told Daily Sun the cow gave birth on Sunday.
“At about 12pm I saw cow legs coming out of Nyamazane, but I realised she was in pain and it was taking longer than normal for the birth process to finish,” Sebenzile said.
“After a while I called my kids to come help. After pulling the dead calf out we got the shock of our lives when we saw that the head looked like a human’s.”
“Some residents have said that the cow may have been sexually abused in the veld where she grazes.”
“We do not know whether to bury it like a human baby or maybe send it to doctors to assess it,” said Sebenzile.
News of the strange birth spread fast. The SunTeam saw people arriving at the homestead in taxis on Monday.
The news shocked Ukhahlamba mayor Thulani Sibeko, who sent a ward councillor and induna to find out how true the rumour was.
“When the family sent me the picture I thought it was photoshopped,” Sibeko said. Induna Mfana Malinga and ward councillor Vusi Hlatshwayo said they were shocked by what they found.
“I’m 80 years old but I have never heard of this before,” Induna Malinga said.
“This is a first in this area. We only know an old isiZulu saying: inkomo ingazala umuntu, but this is shocking.”
Head of the department of agriculture in Bergville, Zama Nkosi said he had sent his officials to talk to the family so they can give the calf to the department.
“We want to have it checked at a lab to see if it’s blood and flesh have human connections,” Nkosi said.
The Malingas said that they are scared to slaughter Nyamazane for meat or a ceremony.
“We see her as a human, because she gave birth to a human,” Sebenzile said. “How can we eat her meat?”
-The Daily Sun
A mother and daughter‚ Mary and Vertasha Carter‚ are taking the world by storm after they revealed that they are in a lesbian relationship and want the world to accept them.
Apparently‚ the two found out that they had more than just a mother daughter relationship when Vertasha was only 16 years of age. However‚ the two started having a sexual relationship when she was 18.
Below is the shocking story
“Vertasha and I knew we were attracted to each other when she was sixteen. But we decided to wait to have sex until she was eighteen‚ legally of age. We are now going public with our relationship to help others who might be in a gay mother/daughter relationship feel confident and okay about coming out. We want the world to know we love each other as mother and daughter and romantically.”Mary said.
The law forbids incest but according to them that is no problem since they cannot bear children;
“We’re women‚ so Vertasha and I obviously can’t make children. It’d be one thing if her daddy (he’s out of the picture) got her pregnant and a baby was born with deformities‚ but we’re not hurting anyone. We’re a new minority and just want acceptance.”
And is Vertasha comfortable having sex with her own mother;
“My mom is still my mom. She does normal mom stuff: buys me clothes‚ pays for food‚ tells me to make our bed. We just happen to enjoy sex with each other too.”
Really enjoying sex, not just having it, goes hand in hand with a healthy mindset for young adults. So if pure pleasure isn’t reason enough, now there’s scientific evidence that shows it could be good for you to enjoy sex
Guys and girls who orgasm more during sex have a higher self-esteem. They’re also probably independent thinkers, making decisions based on what’s right for them and not what others think they should do.
And it’s not just the big orgasm that matters. These positive characteristics are also found in young adults who love giving and getting oral sex, according to a US study of over 3000 18 to 26 year olds.
Sex research so often studies the serious side of things like protecting against STDs and pregnancy. Of course safe sex is important, but so is sexual pleasure! This study was the first to look at whether healthy personality traits like positive self-esteem have anything to do with enjoying sex.
The more you give, the more you get
They definitely do, the research showed, though it’s not known if that’s because young adults who have these traits in the first place enjoy sex more. Something to keep in mind before you jump into bed to boost your self-esteem.
Empathy is another characteristic that has a lot to do with sexual bliss. People who are empathetic are really able to feel what someone else is going through. So it makes total sense that if you’re empathetic you’ll probably enjoy giving pleasure just as much as you do receiving it. It could work like a kind of positive feedback loop where the more pleasure you give, the more you get.
This is especially true for women, the study found. The reason might be that in some cultures it’s less acceptable and maybe more difficult for women to express sexual desire and pleasure. So when they do enjoy sex, it could work wonders on their self-esteem and sense of independence.
Who enjoys sex more?
But it’s not all good news. Guys enjoy sex more than women do, at least among the teens that were part of this study. Not only do they orgasm far more often than women – something which isn’t exactly news – but they also get more pleasure from giving oral sex than women do.
So what stops many young women from enjoying sex? Though this study didn’t go into details, other research has come up with some ideas. For some women, it could be a question of not being in touch with their sexual side. If they don’t yet know what they enjoy, and what they don’t, it could be difficult to talk about sex with their partner and to guide them.
Though lots more young men say sex is pleasurable, there are definitely times when it’s not. Performance anxiety and worrying about pleasing their partners top the list of reasons that make sex a less than enjoyable experience for a guy, research has found.
Does sex make you feel good about yourself? Leave a comment below